Sense Project

Another guest appearance to answer your anonymous questions on the blog!  This time, Sydney, Sense animator extraordinaire, gives you the low-down on squirting (a.k.a. “female ejaculation”)…

Q: how can my man make me squirt?

First off, not all vag’s squirt. As a matter of fact, most don’t, but a fair number do and it’s definitely worth a shot! Squirting, when it does happen, is all about stimulating the g-spot in a specific way. Keep in mind, though, that squirting is not the be-all and end-all of pleasure. Approaching it as a hurdle that needs to be overcome will also make it even more unlikely, since being comfortable and turned on is key to any sexual encounter.

So let’s get down to it. First stop - the bathroom. G-spot stimulation and orgasms can be kind of uncomfortable with a full bladder, and right before ejaculation you’ll almost always feel a like you have to pee, which is normal. Second - you may want to lay down a towel or plastic sheet. Some squirters will dribble out a couple of teaspoons of thin clear liquid. Some people will produce some major spray.

From there, you probably want to spend some time finding your g-spot and figuring out what kind of stimulation is best for you. This can be a group activity with your dude, or maybe you want to do some self-exploration so that when it’s your guy’s turn you can be a little more helpful with directions. The easiest way to find your g-spot is to lie back and put a finger or two in your vagina. Curl your fingers up and a few inches in you should feel a coarse, bumpy spot. Success! Keep in mind that g-spots are in a slightly different place for everyone, and our fingers are also different lengths, so if you don’t find it it’s possible you might need to find someone you’re comfortable with to help you out.

G-spot orgasms and squirting might be more likely when your man goes at it with a firm pounding motion – but again, it’s good to experiment to see what feels good to you. He may find that it’s easier to use his fingers since he’ll have more control and be more likely to directly stimulate the g-spot. Another option is to find yourself a g-spot vibrator (super common and can be found at sex shops all over the city and online). Many folks find them to be the only way they can squirt, or the most consistent way, and don’t fool yourself into thinking that sex toys are just for solo play. They’re super fun for couples, too. Of course, a penis, dildo, or cucumber can also do the trick. Experiment!

Et voila. Best of luck and remember that there’s no reason to get down on yourself or your man if it simply doesn’t happen. There’s no one way to have good sex.