Sense Project

Since i’m doing stuff on what to do when you are drawn to someone and how to seduce, why not talk about pick up lines! In my french post, i talked about why guys sometimes don’t take no for an answer and how difficult it is to negociate things like consent and condom use.  Before all of this, there is the nightmarish first talk, first impression step that you don’t want to miss if you want to see her/him again.

This is intented to be funny, first because i am not sure if anywone would fall for such lines, even though they have been listed as how many times they were tried and how many time they had worked, some with surprisingly high scores. Second because those are not intended to use on a date or invite someone to a date (if you ever want to have a positive answer) but more in bars/club where trying to pick up a one night stand.

Laugh on this and think of how you would get someone’s attention better thant this!

They are divided into categories and at the end there is two numbers. The first one is the attempt number, the second one is how many time it worked.

Straight to the point : obvious and sometimes too much

Didn’t anyone  tell you that you wanted to sleep with me ?? I though you knew…  12 -1

This is a condom. If we put it on, we can have sex. 3-1

You’ve been a bad, bad girl(boy). Go to my room! 10-5

Excuse me. My friend over there is a little embarrassed. She’d like your phone number. She wants to know where she can get a hold of me in the morning. 10-8

Cheesy : too cheesy

I didn’t know that angels could fly so low ! 20-5

Is there an airport nearby or is that just my heart taking off? 5-1

It’s my birthday! How about a birthday kiss? (Is it really your birthday?) No, but how about a kiss anyway? 5-5

(hold out hand) Would you hold this for me while I go for a walk?  never tried

Your legs must be tired because you’ve been running through my mind all night. 3-0

WHAT ?!: Yep, this is the right category name (and those are the less offensive…)

Hey, Laura! (Big hug). I haven’t seen you forEVER!! (huge kiss) Wow, you’ve really changed! (I’m not Laura) What? Oh my God, you even changed your name!  101-31

Are my undies showing? Answer: “No.” You: “Would you like them to? 1-0

Really like your peaches, wanna shake your tree. Never tried

Excuse me, but does this smell like chloroform to you? Never tried

Just plane lame : please nooo

Excuse me, but you have a beep on your nose. What? (Reach up and gently squeeze her nose) BEEP! 7-0

Hi, the voices in my head told me to come over and talk to you. 4-0

Pardon me miss, I seem to have lost my phone number, could I borrow yours? 6-0

I just shit into my pants. Can I get into yours? 4- minus 3

Which one of the Spice girls are you? 54-2

Top lines that have been tried and worked (somehow i just can’t understand why)

Greetings and salivations 15-10

Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again? 14-10

The only thing your eyes haven’t told me is your name. 13-13

I bet you $20 you’re gonna turn me down.15-13

You’re so hot, your ass is on fire. 15-12

Have you always been this cute, or did you have to work at it? 10-7

[Look at her shirt label.] When they say, “What are you doing?” You respond: “Yep! Made in heaven!” 30-30

You can look moore at http://linesthataregood.com/

Some are juste plane wrong and offensive, others are rather cute, its up to you to make your own opinion about this! Feel free to comment on how you would react if someone would ask some of those questions!

TEENAGERS MAKING THEIR VOICES HEARD ON SEXUALITY?  DEFINITELY!

A group of teenagers from Toronto produced their own documentary about sexuality and pressure amongst adolescents, called It’s a Teen’s World: Wired for Sex, Lies and Power Trips.

Their opinions were taken so seriously that it was even shown on CTV.

This by teens - for teens video is GREAT!

Here is the trailer for the documentary:

Teen World

If you liked this trailer, you can watch the whole documentary online at:

http://www.cbc.ca/documentaries/passionateeyeshowcase/2009/teensworld/index.html

They also have an AWESOME website: http://www.itsateensworld.com

Hope you will enjoy it as much as I did!!

IS IT HARD FOR GUYS TO FLIRT WITH GIRLS?

The male members of Marie Claire seem to think so! Here is what they had to say in the article Four Things That Make Women Unapproachable*:

It is hard for guys to flirt with girls because of four simple things:

• We look pissed -
• We are surrounded by our friends
• We don’t lock eyes
• We are too flirtatious

This article raised a lot of questions in my mind. Are we really that inapproachable?

We look unapproachable because we look pissed and/or are surrounded by our friends. Don’t we look pissed because we get a lot of inappropriate comments from too many guys?          Some of us get harassed and followed by weirdoes. And how many guys approach us with some sleazy made-up sentence like “what’s your sign, baby? Mine is Virgo!  Wanna help me?”. Some of us also don’t want to be hit on. Can’t they just leave us alone with our friends? We are trying to have fun! No wonder we look pissed sometimes.

The male members of Marie Claire also blame it on two things that seemed be linked together: we don’t lock eyes and/or we are too flirtatious.

Maybe we don’t lock eyes because we are not interested in you! Maybe we haven’t even seen you! Or maybe the society tells us we can’t! Yes, at this time, our sexuality can be more liberal than our grand-mothers. Unfortunately, we are not as free as we should be!

The problem is that what is asked of us is a mixed message. We are shown women in the media, sexy as hell, locking eyes and lips and … At the same time, guys are still expected to do all the work, when it comes to flirting.  Even if the media projects an image of a sexually freed woman, we are not allowed to be that woman! There’s also a very clear double-standard when it comes to sexuality. When a cocky, sexually aggressive guy “scores”, he’s a hunk.  When a girl is flirtatious and as sexy as the girls in a 50cents‘ video, she’s a whore…

So guys, how can you ask us to lock eyes but not be too flirtatious? Why can’t we just show you our romantic/sexual interest without being “too much” or “not enough”? Is that fair?

With all that being said, it seems to me that this article couldn’t be more wrong. I can see two reasons for us not being approachable, but they are very different:

• We want to be safe
• We are not allowed to be sexually assertive

But that’s just my own opinion!

What do you think? Are we that inapproachable? If so, is it for the reason stated by Marie Claire’s members?

*You can read the article here: http://lifestyle.ca.msn.com/love-sex-relationships/hearst-article.aspx?cp-documentid=22019385