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While some people might associate sex toys primarily with masturbation, rest assured that using them with partners can be just as awesome. Check out these videos for more info:

Using Toys with Partners:

Unique Sex Toys and Health Concerns:

Woman-friendly Canadian Sex Stores:

JoyToyz

Venus Envy

Come As You Are

Good For Her

As I said, Hymen usually breaks (if it hasn’t already) during the first penetration (tampon, finger, toy or penis). It is absolutely normal. Since it is a thin membrane that is breaking and it is part of the body, it is possible that it hurts the first (or first few) time. It might even bleed. All of this is normal.

You have to talk to your partner and feel comfortable, in order to be able to tell them if you want them to stop. Also, if you are relaxed, your muscles will be too, and it will facilitate the lubrification and the penetration.

Remember: Virginity isn’t all about the hymen. You might consider you had your first sexual contact, even tho your hymen is still intact.

If you have any concerns about your virginity, your hymen or your vagina, it is always good to talk to your gynecologist.

You can get HIV from hugging or rather, touching an HIV-infected person repeatedly for long periods of time. TRUE or FALSE?

FALSE: HIV is transmitted via bodily fluids; namely, semen, pre-ejaculate fluid, vaginal fluids, blood, or breast milk. This means that you are putting yourself at risk of contacting HIV:

1.If you have unprotected sex.

2.If you inject drug, steroids or hormones and/or get pierced or tattooed with unclean needles.

3.If you share “gear” - sniffing or snorting equipment.

Also, HIV-infected mothers can transmit the virus to their fetus during pregnancy, at birth or by breastfeeding their child.

IS IT HARD FOR GUYS TO FLIRT WITH GIRLS?

The male members of Marie Claire seem to think so! Here is what they had to say in the article Four Things That Make Women Unapproachable*:

It is hard for guys to flirt with girls because of four simple things:

• We look pissed -
• We are surrounded by our friends
• We don’t lock eyes
• We are too flirtatious

This article raised a lot of questions in my mind. Are we really that inapproachable?

We look unapproachable because we look pissed and/or are surrounded by our friends. Don’t we look pissed because we get a lot of inappropriate comments from too many guys?          Some of us get harassed and followed by weirdoes. And how many guys approach us with some sleazy made-up sentence like “what’s your sign, baby? Mine is Virgo!  Wanna help me?”. Some of us also don’t want to be hit on. Can’t they just leave us alone with our friends? We are trying to have fun! No wonder we look pissed sometimes.

The male members of Marie Claire also blame it on two things that seemed be linked together: we don’t lock eyes and/or we are too flirtatious.

Maybe we don’t lock eyes because we are not interested in you! Maybe we haven’t even seen you! Or maybe the society tells us we can’t! Yes, at this time, our sexuality can be more liberal than our grand-mothers. Unfortunately, we are not as free as we should be!

The problem is that what is asked of us is a mixed message. We are shown women in the media, sexy as hell, locking eyes and lips and … At the same time, guys are still expected to do all the work, when it comes to flirting.  Even if the media projects an image of a sexually freed woman, we are not allowed to be that woman! There’s also a very clear double-standard when it comes to sexuality. When a cocky, sexually aggressive guy “scores”, he’s a hunk.  When a girl is flirtatious and as sexy as the girls in a 50cents‘ video, she’s a whore…

So guys, how can you ask us to lock eyes but not be too flirtatious? Why can’t we just show you our romantic/sexual interest without being “too much” or “not enough”? Is that fair?

With all that being said, it seems to me that this article couldn’t be more wrong. I can see two reasons for us not being approachable, but they are very different:

• We want to be safe
• We are not allowed to be sexually assertive

But that’s just my own opinion!

What do you think? Are we that inapproachable? If so, is it for the reason stated by Marie Claire’s members?

*You can read the article here: http://lifestyle.ca.msn.com/love-sex-relationships/hearst-article.aspx?cp-documentid=22019385

Voici un site internet plus que complet sur le vaginsime. Il offre des informations pour les femmes, leur partenaire et les professionnels travaillants avec cette problématique. Évidemment, il n’est pas disponible en français, mais ce n’est généralement pas trop difficile à comprendre.

Parmi toutes les informations sur le site, il ya des trucs pour que le pap test soit le moins douloureux et inconfortable possible, des questions et réponses sur le vaginisme, les pour et contre des traitements, des tests à faire soit-même et une foule de renseignement sur les effets du vaginismes et d’où ça peut provenir, les mythes et réalités etc.!

J’espère que cela pourra aider quiconque veut en savoir plus sur le vaginisme ou trouver pourquoi elles ressentent certaines choses. Il n’ a pas tant de gens qui connaissent le vagnismes, même parmi les personne qui en sont atteintes.

Voici une bref résumé de ce qu’est le vaginisme et comment il affecte le corps de la femme (ces informations se trouve dans la section ”What is vaginismus”):

Le vaginismes est la réaction défensive que le vagin a quand il a mal ou peur.

Le vaginisme ce sont les muscles pelviens qui se contractent dans l’anticipation de la douleur, comme le poing sur l’image ci-dessous.

Le vaginisme est la condition médicale qui rend douloureux ou impossible pour une femme d’insérer quelquechose à l’intérieur de son vagin.

Le vaginismes c’est l’expérience d’un ”mur de brique” ou de la fermeture de l’ouverture vaginale pour une femme quand elle essaie de faire l’amour.

Si vous voulez en savoir plus, rendez vous au : http://vaginismus-awareness-network.org/

This is a website much complete on vaginismus. It offers informations for womens, their partner and also for practitioners. Here is an overview of what infos can be found on the site: advices for the pap smear to be the least incomfortable and least hurting possible, Q&A on vaginismus, pros and cons on treatment, self guides and tons of infos on what is vaginismus, what does it do, where does it come from, myth, realities ect.!

I hope this helps anyone who wants to know more about this or figure out why they might feel a certain way. Not much people know what is vaginismus, even ones that have it.

Here some quick key fact on what is vaginismus and how it affects the female body (comes from the ”What is vaginismus” section).

Vaginismus is the defensive reaction a vagina has when she is afraid or in pain.

Vaginismus is pelvic muscles clamping shut in anticipation of pain, like the fist of the picture above.

Vaginismus is the medical condition which makes it painful or impossible for a woman to insert anything inside her.
Vaginismus is experiencing a brick wall or closed vaginal opening when trying to make love.

If you want to know more, just go to the link above and read on!